Would you rather questions for couples

How to play

1. Make ten picks. Each question has two options. Go with your gut.
2. Send the link. It runs in the browser on both phones. Nobody needs an app or an account, and your partner opens the link straight from WhatsApp, iMessage or Instagram.
3. Your partner picks too. Your picks stay hidden until they are done.
4. See your match rate. The result shows every question with both picks, so the arguments can begin.

Playing face to face? Read the questions below out loud and both answer on three: pointing left or right works fine.

All 80 questions

Every would you rather question in the deck. They are all fine to read at the dinner table. Ten are dealt each round, and this browser skips ones you have already played.

1. Would you rather have a picnic at sunrise or a rooftop dinner at sunset?
2. Would you rather take a cooking class together or a dance class together?
3. Would you rather spend a week in a cabin with no signal or a week in a city that never sleeps?
4. Would you rather have coffee brought to you every morning or a surprise date every month?
5. Would you rather relive our first date or get a peek at us ten years from now?
6. Would you rather drive across the country or take a slow train through the mountains?
7. Would you rather have a house with a huge kitchen or a huge backyard?
8. Would you rather eat only breakfast foods forever or never eat them again?
9. Would you rather swap jobs for a day or swap hobbies for a month?
10. Would you rather go camping in a tent or glamping with a real bed?
11. Would you rather have a pet that talks or a pet that never sheds?
12. Would you rather host a big dinner party or be the guests at one?
13. Would you rather slow dance in the kitchen or sing at full volume in the car?
14. Would you rather have a tiny apartment in a city you love or a big house in a quiet town?
15. Would you rather learn to sail together or learn to surf together?
16. Would you rather have every meal cooked for you or never wash a dish again?
17. Would you rather spend a holiday with a huge crowd or with just the two of us?
18. Would you rather be famous for your cooking or for your dance moves?
19. Would you rather spend a day together in 1985 or a day together in 2085?
20. Would you rather fill our place with plants or fill it with books?
21. Would you rather have a weekly game night or a weekly movie night?
22. Would you rather go on a safari or a scuba diving trip?
23. Would you rather eat street food around the world or fine dining in one great city?
24. Would you rather be stuck in an elevator together for an hour or on a long flight with no screens?
25. Would you rather live in a beach town or a mountain town?
26. Would you rather have a robot that cooks or a robot that cleans?
27. Would you rather spend a rainy day building a blanket fort or doing a giant puzzle?
28. Would you rather renew our vows on a beach or at the place we first met?
29. Would you rather watch a meteor shower from a hilltop or fireworks from a rooftop?
30. Would you rather have a personal chef for a month or a housekeeper for a year?
31. Would you rather give up coffee or dessert for a year?
32. Would you rather spend a summer working on a farm together or a winter working at a ski lodge?
33. Would you rather have a secret handshake or a secret code word?
34. Would you rather spend a day at an amusement park or a day at a spa?
35. Would you rather read each other’s diaries from age 13 or watch each other’s home videos from age 5?
36. Would you rather eat only pizza or only tacos for a month?
37. Would you rather win a dance competition together or a trivia night together?
38. Would you rather live in a treehouse or on a houseboat for a year?
39. Would you rather throw a costume party or a murder-mystery dinner?
40. Would you rather only be able to whisper or only be able to sing?
41. Would you rather have a lazy morning in bed or an early hike with a view?
42. Would you rather spend a week in Paris or a week in Tokyo?
43. Would you rather spend a month eating through Italy or a month exploring Iceland?
44. Would you rather live without music or without movies?
45. Would you rather star in a reality show together or a documentary about us?
46. Would you rather have our love story turned into a musical or a comic book?
47. Would you rather spend a night in a castle or a night in a lighthouse?
48. Would you rather be able to teleport home or pause time for an hour a day?
49. Would you rather grow your own vegetables or keep backyard chickens?
50. Would you rather have a big group of couple friends or just a few close ones?
51. Would you rather go to a wedding where you know no one or a reunion where you know everyone?
52. Would you rather assemble furniture together or wallpaper a room together?
53. Would you rather go back to school together or take a year off to travel?
54. Would you rather live in a world without chocolate or without cheese?
55. Would you rather dress up for a fancy gala or dance at a muddy music festival?
56. Would you rather have a home theater or a home gym?
57. Would you rather go to the same vacation spot every year or somewhere new every time?
58. Would you rather adopt a pet raccoon or a pet goat?
59. Would you rather live where it’s always summer or where it snows every winter?
60. Would you rather cook a three-course meal together or order everything on the menu somewhere new?
61. Would you rather take a hot-air balloon ride or a helicopter tour?
62. Would you rather be the best dancers at every wedding or the best karaoke duo in town?
63. Would you rather spend a whole day in pajamas or a whole day dressed up?
64. Would you rather redo your living room or your bedroom from scratch?
65. Would you rather go on a ghost tour or a food tour?
66. Would you rather go to a cheese tasting or a chocolate-making class?
67. Would you rather write a song together or paint a mural together?
68. Would you rather give up social media for a year or takeout for a year?
69. Would you rather have a backyard fire pit or a rooftop terrace?
70. Would you rather have a theme song that plays when you walk in or a laugh track for your jokes?
71. Would you rather spend a night locked in a museum or a library?
72. Would you rather go on a cruise or a camper-van trip?
73. Would you rather share a hobby that’s competitive or one that’s relaxing?
74. Would you rather be able to talk to animals or speak every human language?
75. Would you rather have a lifetime supply of fresh bread or ice cream?
76. Would you rather throw your partner a surprise party or have one thrown for you?
77. Would you rather get lost in a corn maze together or locked in an escape room?
78. Would you rather spend a week without your phone or a week without your bed?
79. Would you rather open a tiny bakery together or a tiny bookshop?
80. Would you rather have a song written about you or a star named after you?

Questions people ask

Are these questions clean?

Yes. Every question here is fine to read out at a family dinner. They lean romantic and silly, never explicit.

How do we play over text?

Make your picks here, then send the link. Your partner makes theirs on their own phone, and you both see the matches. It works across time zones too, so it suits long-distance couples.

Is a high match rate good?

It is fun either way. A high match rate means similar taste. A low one means more to talk about, and some of the best date ideas come from the questions where you disagreed.