Compatibility test for couples

How to play

1. Answer 20 questions about yourself. Many use a five-step scale, so "probably" and "absolutely" count as close.
2. Send the link. It runs in the browser on both phones. Nobody needs an app or an account, and your partner opens the link straight from WhatsApp, iMessage or Instagram.
3. Your partner answers the same questions. They can't see your answers first.
4. See your match by topic. One overall score, a score for each topic, and the questions where you were furthest apart.

How the score works

Each question gives a share of agreement. On scale questions, the closer your answers, the higher the share: one step apart still counts for three quarters. On the other questions it is all or nothing. Big-ticket questions, like children, where to live and how you handle money, count double.

The topic scores average the questions in each topic, and the overall score averages everything. It is a conversation starter, not a verdict. A low topic score shows you where to talk, not a reason to worry.

The questions

The test deals 20 of these questions each time. Reading them together works as a guided conversation too.

1. Do I want kids, or more kids, someday?
2. Where would I most like to live in ten years?
3. Am I more of a saver or a spender?
4. How do I think a serious couple should handle money?
5. Before either of us makes a big purchase, what do I expect?
6. How tidy do I need my home to be?
7. How do I think chores should be split?
8. How often do I want to see my family?
9. How much say should our families have in our big decisions?
10. Would I move to a new city for your career?
11. Which pets do I want at home?
12. How much of my free time do I want to spend together?
13. How much time alone do I need in a normal week?
14. Who do I picture us spending most weekends with?
15. How do I want to spend vacations?
16. How often do I want to travel?
17. When something bugs me, how soon do I bring it up?
18. How do I prefer to talk about something serious?
19. How much do I share about our relationship with friends?
20. How do I feel about posting about us online?
21. How much do I want our hobbies to overlap?
22. How important is it to me that my partner gets along with my friends?
23. Do I want to get married someday?
24. When would I want us to move in together?
25. How close do I want to live to family?
26. Do I keep a budget, or go with the flow?
27. What would I do with an unexpected windfall?
28. How do I feel about lending money to friends or family?
29. Where do I see my career in five years?
30. When do I like to go to bed on a work night?
31. How do I feel about guests staying over?
32. How do I want to split holidays between families?
33. How big a part of my life is my career?
34. How do I feel about work spilling into evenings?
35. How do I feel about going to bed angry?
36. Do I like to plan ahead or live in the moment?
37. How do I feel about big risks, like a career change?
38. How do I like to see my friends?
39. How do I feel about each of us taking trips with friends?
40. How adventurous am I with food?
41. Do I want to cook at home or eat out?
42. What would I want our home to feel like?
43. What matters most to me in a home?
44. How do I picture retirement?
45. How do I feel about phones at the dinner table?
46. How would I most like to give back?
47. Would I rather buy a home or keep renting?
48. How important is it to me that we share a sense of humor?
49. Do I think partners should tell each other everything?
50. How do I like my weeks to run?

Questions people ask

Is this a scientific test?

No. It measures how similar your answers are on everyday topics, which is a good way to start a talk. It doesn’t predict whether a relationship will last.

What does a low score mean?

It means you answered differently, often on one or two topics. Look at the questions where you were furthest apart and talk them through.

Can we take it more than once?

Yes. Each round deals 20 questions from a larger deck, so a second round asks different questions.

Do we both need the app?

No. Both of you take it in the browser, and nobody signs up.